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Finding Your Angles: A Selfie Guide for Trans Women

Taking selfies can be intimidating, especially for transgender women navigating dysphoria and online hate. This article offers an affirming, filter-free guide to using angles to highlight what you love and gently camouflage what you don’t. Written by a trans woman exploring selfies for the first time, it shares both practical tips and personal reflections to help you see yourself with confidence and compassion.

Let’s start with the truth: posting selfies can be terrifying. For transgender women—especially those early in transition or still learning to feel safe in front of the camera—it can feel like stepping into a lion’s den wearing a name tag that reads, “Please judge me.”

But this article isn’t about fear. It’s about finding your angles.

It’s about that quiet joy that comes when you take a photo that feels right—not perfect, not flawless, but true. It’s about discovering that a simple tilt of the chin or shift in lighting can change everything. And it’s about learning to use your phone as a mirror that reflects you, not the noise of a world that still struggles to see us.

I didn’t grow up in the selfie generation. I grew up in the “hope the drugstore doesn’t mess up your film” generation. If I wanted a photo of myself, it meant a full roll of film, a couple of weeks waiting, and hoping I wouldn’t hate all 24 glossy prints when they came back. Later, I used a Polaroid, but those film packs were expensive, and I never felt comfortable experimenting. Each photo was a roll of the dice—and when you’re dealing with dysphoria, that’s a tough game to play.

So here I am, well into adulthood, finally learning to take selfies. And if you’re just starting too—sister, I see you. This guide is for you.

Why Selfies Matter

We live in a digital age where presence is everything. We swipe through curated feeds filled with airbrushed perfection, and we’re told—sometimes subtly, sometimes cruelly—that we need to match that. As trans women, we’re also told we’re not enough, not real, not beautiful, not woman enough. The hate comes fast and hard when you dare to exist online, and it’s easy to start believing that you should either stay silent or disappear.

But I’m here to tell you: you deserve to take up space.

A good selfie isn’t about vanity. It’s about affirmation. It’s a snapshot that says, This is me, and I like what I see. For many of us, that’s not something we’ve ever been taught to feel.

We’re allowed to want photos of ourselves that reflect our truth—not the world’s assumptions. And if a certain angle helps you feel more like you, then that’s not a trick. That’s art.

Filters vs. Angles: What’s the Difference?

Let’s clear one thing up: there’s no shame in using filters or photo editing. We all have different needs, and sometimes a filter can help soften dysphoria or ease anxiety. But there’s a difference between hiding and highlighting.

Filters often apply artificial smoothing, change your features, or reshape your face entirely. Angles, on the other hand, are about perspective. They work with what’s already there. You’re not erasing yourself—you’re presenting yourself more intentionally.

Learning your angles is about finding how you like to be seen. It’s a subtle skill, and it’s one that grows with practice.

Know Thy Dysphoria: Identifying Your Sensitive Zones

Before we dive into technical stuff, let’s talk about emotional reality. Many trans women carry deep insecurities about certain features—features we’ve been told are “masculine” or “unfeminine” by a society obsessed with binary beauty standards.

Here are some of the most common areas of concern among trans women and how angles can help:

Jawline & Chin

Let’s get this out of the way: You are not your jaw. But it’s totally valid if that’s a place your dysphoria hits.

  • Try turning your face slightly to the side. A straight-on photo tends to emphasize width, while a three-quarter angle creates softer lines and draws attention to the eyes.
  • Chin down, eyes up is a classic trans-femme trick. It softens the lower face and creates a more vulnerable, feminine posture.

Forehead & Hairline

Whether you’ve had hairline restoration, wear wigs, or rock your natural hairline with pride, the forehead can feel exposed.

  • Use overhead lighting sparingly, as it casts shadows that can emphasize the forehead.
  • Try angling the camera slightly above eye level, pointing down. This shortens the forehead visually and draws focus to the eyes and cheekbones.

Adam’s Apple

For some of us, this is the biggest source of dysphoria. There’s no shame in that.

  • Try tilting your chin slightly down and turning your neck to the side. This can make the Adam’s apple less prominent.
  • Use shadows to your advantage—a soft scarf or hair framing your neck can add depth while drawing the eye elsewhere.

Shoulders

Broad shoulders are often a point of insecurity, though let me remind you: many cis women have broad shoulders too.

  • Turn your body at a slight angle, rather than facing the camera head-on. This reduces the perceived width of the shoulders.
  • Keep one arm bent or your hand on your hip—this breaks up the visual line and adds curve.

Nose

Every nose tells a story. Still, if it’s something you feel self-conscious about:

  • Try side lighting, which creates gentle shadows and gives the nose dimension without harshness.
  • Experiment with straight-on versus side angles. Everyone’s nose looks different depending on lighting and tilt.

Facial Hair Shadow

Even with great hair removal or makeup, shadows can mess with your confidence.

  • Use natural light from a window, especially during the golden hour (early morning or late afternoon). It’s diffused and gentle.
  • Avoid harsh overhead bathroom lights, which are the enemy of smooth skin and warm tones.

Hips

Let’s talk about hips—because yes, curves are fabulous, but lack of them doesn’t make you any less woman. Many trans women struggle with hip dysphoria, especially before (or without) HRT, padding, or body contouring. The good news? Angles are your best friend.

  • Shift your weight to one leg when standing to naturally create a hip dip or curve.
  • Place a hand on your waist or thigh, which draws the eye along your body line and enhances shape.
  • Shooting from slightly above with a twist at the waist can create more curve illusion while softening the torso line.

Stomachs

This one’s tender for a lot of us. Whether it’s dysphoria from fat distribution, surgical scars, bloating, or just the way hormones haven’t quite done their thing yet—stomachs can stir up insecurity.

  • Angles from above while seated or lying down can elongate the body and draw attention away from the midsection.
  • Using your arms or clothing layers to break up the stomach visually can help frame the photo intentionally—not to hide, but to guide.
  • Side profiles with a gentle curve in the spine can emphasize posture and downplay the abdomen.

Butt

Ah, the butt—the chaos zone of trans femme selfie strategy. Whether you’re still waiting for hormones to redistribute, you’re padding like a drag pro, or you’re just curious what angles flatter your figure, this is a place where posing truly shines.

  • Stand with one leg slightly behind the other, heel lifted, to create lift and curve.
  • Take your photo from a lower angle, looking slightly upward, which enhances the shape and adds dimension.
  • Twisting your torso slightly away from the camera while looking back can create that classic “S” curve seen in fashion photography.

Your Strong Angles: Finding What You Love

It’s not all about hiding. You also deserve to celebrate the parts of you that feel good. Do you have soulful eyes, expressive eyebrows, killer collarbones, or a glowing smile? Great. Let’s show them off.

  • High angles tend to highlight the eyes and cheekbones.
  • Side profiles can showcase strong features and create mystery.
  • Close crops let you focus on eyes, lips, or specific features you love.

Take time to experiment. Make it playful. Turn on your front-facing camera, put on some music, and just vibe. Try different expressions, head tilts, and postures. Watch what happens when you move slowly, intentionally.

You’ll start to feel what works—and what doesn’t. That’s how you find your angles. Not from a list, but from yourself.

Experimentation Is Key

There is no perfect formula. That’s part of what makes this so personal. You’re the artist and the canvas.

  • Take 20 selfies. Keep two. That’s not failure—it’s curation.
  • Don’t delete the “bad” ones right away. Come back later and see if your feelings change.
  • Create a private folder where you keep the ones that feel right, even if you’re not ready to share them.

The goal isn’t to impress strangers. It’s to affirm you. You’re allowed to enjoy the process, even if it feels awkward at first.

Dealing with Hate (and Not Giving Two F*cks)

Let’s be honest: if you post online, someone will eventually say something hateful. They’ll come for your jaw, your voice, your existence. Why? Because they see your joy and feel threatened by it.

But here’s the secret: they’re not the audience.

These photos? These are for you. Maybe for your friends, your sisters, your future self. Not for people who want to see you fail.

Post what you love. Block without guilt. Curate your comments. You don’t owe anyone access to your confidence.

Selfies as a Form of Self-Love

A well-angled selfie isn’t about looking like someone else. It’s about seeing yourself clearly. It’s about building a visual relationship with the woman you are becoming. Every photo you take—every angle you explore—is a love letter to her.

You don’t need filters to be beautiful. You don’t need Photoshop to be seen. You just need light, time, and a little patience.

The Bottom Line

I’m still figuring this out. I don’t have it all mastered. Some days, I take fifty selfies and hate them all. Other days, I find one, and it stops me in my tracks. That’s me, I think. That’s who I’ve been trying to find.

If you’re just starting, take the pressure off. You don’t have to be Instagram-ready. You don’t have to perform femininity for anyone else. You just have to start looking at yourself with kindness.

Find your angles. Find your light. Find your truth.

Because the world needs to see you—not the filtered version, not the one they try to erase—but you.

And you, my sister, are absolutely worth seeing.

Bricki
Brickihttps://transvitae.com
Founder of TransVitae, her life and work celebrate diversity and promote self-love. She believes in the power of information and community to inspire positive change and perceptions of the transgender community.
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