Trigger Warning: This article discusses sensitive topics, including suicide, cyberbullying, and transphobia. If you or someone you know is struggling, please seek support from a trusted friend, mental health professional, or an LGBTQ+ support organization.
Tragedy struck the Italian social media community on March 19 when 21-year-old TikToker Davide Garufi took his own life at the home he shared with his family near Milan. The online personality, who had publicly shared his gender journey, was reportedly subjected to cyberbullying after announcing a change in his identity. While authorities are investigating possible factors contributing to his death, including the role of internet harassment, the primary focus of the probe remains on the circumstances surrounding the firearm used in the incident.
A Personal Journey Shared Online
Garufi began his social media career in 2020, amassing over 278,000 followers and 1.4 million likes on TikTok, where he posted comedy sketches and personal reflections. His content resonated with many, especially those navigating their own gender identity and self-expression.
At one point, Garufi came out as a transgender woman and requested to be called Alexandra, only to later announce that he identified as non-binary and would return to using his birth name and male pronouns. His openness sparked widespread discussion among his followers, but it also drew a wave of transphobic and abusive comments. The backlash reportedly took a toll on his well-being, highlighting the dangers of cyberbullying, particularly against those in the LGBTQ+ community.
The Circumstances of His Death
According to Italian authorities, Garufi died from a self-inflicted gunshot wound at his home in Sesto San Giovanni. A criminal investigation has been launched into the incident, focusing on two key aspects: incitement to suicide and failure to properly store a firearm. The firearm in question, owned by a security guard in the household, was reportedly left unsecured in a backpack, raising concerns about negligence in its storage.
While early speculation suggested that online hate speech might have directly influenced Garufi’s decision, police have stated that the investigation is not currently linked to cyberbullying. However, they are examining his phone and computer records and speaking with his friends and boyfriend to understand the events leading up to his death.
A Community in Mourning
The loss of Garufi has sparked an outpouring of grief and solidarity, particularly from LGBTQ+ advocacy groups and political figures. Sinistra Italiana (Italian Left), a progressive political party, issued a statement expressing both “pain and anger” over his passing. The party attributed his death to “a traditional culture that finds support in anti-choice movements and the intolerant right,” emphasizing the urgent need to combat discrimination and create a more inclusive society.
Daniele Durante, a delegate from the party, pointed to the devastating impact of online harassment, arguing that mainstream Italian society underestimates the long-term psychological effects of cyberbullying. The Milan branch of Sinistra Italiana has since reiterated its commitment to fighting intolerance and promoting equality for marginalized communities.
The Cost of Cyberbullying
Garufi’s story serves as a stark reminder of the dangers of cyberbullying and social stigma faced by transgender and non-binary individuals. While the internet has become a powerful platform for self-expression and advocacy, it has also given rise to targeted harassment that can have devastating consequences.
Transgender individuals are particularly vulnerable to online abuse, often facing hostility when they share their identities publicly. The constant scrutiny and invalidation can contribute to mental health struggles, with many feeling isolated or unsafe in both digital and physical spaces. Studies show that LGBTQ+ youth are at a significantly higher risk of experiencing cyberbullying, which can lead to severe psychological distress and increased suicide rates.
Garufi’s experience highlights the importance of stronger online protections, community support, and mental health resources for those navigating gender identity and public visibility. Social media platforms must take more decisive action to curb hate speech, while governments and advocacy groups must push for policies that protect vulnerable users from harassment.
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Remembering Davide Garufi
Beyond his internet presence, Garufi was a young man with aspirations and a life outside of social media. He worked in a shopping center shoe store, where customers often recognized him from TikTok. Friends and colleagues describe him as a kind, creative individual who brought joy to those around him.
His death is a tragic loss, not only for his family and loved ones but for the larger LGBTQ+ community. As tributes pour in, his story serves as a call to action against cyberbullying, intolerance, and the societal pressures that weigh heavily on transgender and non-binary individuals.
The Bottom Line
Garufi’s passing should serve as a wake-up call. Cyberbullying, particularly against transgender and non-binary people, must be addressed with the seriousness it deserves. While Italian authorities continue their investigation, the broader conversation must focus on preventing similar tragedies in the future.
To those struggling with identity and mental health: You are not alone. Support systems exist, and your voice matters. If you or someone you know is experiencing distress, please reach out to a mental health professional or an LGBTQ+ support organization.
As the community mourns Garufi’s passing, the fight for a safer, more inclusive world continues. His life and struggles will not be forgotten.
